8 Important Ways to be Sure You Are Safe in the World of BDSM

*This post is sponsored and talks about sex*

Hey friends and welcome back to my blog.
I know you have heard of 50 Shades of Grey popular book series turned into movie 2011-2018. If you have not then you don't have tv or are lying. The book is based on rich guy Christian Grey who finds a young girl Anastasia Steele. Their romance blossoms and we learn Christian likes to push the pain and boundaries of sexual relations often being dominant. As the series goes on, we see both their sexual and romantic relationship evolve into kids/marriage and more sadomasochistic aka s&m.

When the movie came out, so did more and more people couples to learn about s&m. Some women not telling their husbands their desire to be in this kind of relationship due to embarrassment or religious values.

Since this topic is becoming more and more mainstream, I thought it would be a  great time to talk about it.

So today we are talking about tips and unknown facts about subs and doms aka submissive and dominate sexual relations. Bdsm is supposed to be  fun but there are some precaution that you need to know. Let's get started

*Have you ever tried bdsm? Don't be afraid to say yes*

1.  Have a safe word you both agree on

    This one of the most important aspect of bdsm play. This will make sure things are safe

2.  Be respectful of the person. If they use their safe word or say No then stop

3.  Be on the lookout for potential abuse both emotional and physical.
   If the person uses the safe word or says No and the other person does not stop, that could mean physical abuse.

  If your partner can't associate between playtime and regular time is then there could be something wrong

4.  Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with

   No one is forcing you to do anything. If they are then that is abuse. Make sure to use the word No. It is a word that is made to be used.

  You know what you are comfortable with and what you are not. Which also goes along with #5

5. Be open about your likes and dislikes
  You know what you like and you don't. The other person does not. To make it more fun, be sure to be open.

 Say if you like to be gagged to tied up. Say if you don't like to be tied up

6.  Wear a bell during if a safe word can not be used

  For example when you are being gagged. This is another form of safety. You need to be able to express when you don't want to do something anymore.

7.  Research about the topic before trying it

    That way you know sort of what you are getting yourself into.

 This could be could to do with your partner also. If you two are new to bdsm, then looking it up could help make it more fun

8.  Have fun

  Bdsm is supposed to be fun. Femdom dating is supposed to be fun. Don't be afraid to try new things. Sex is supposed to be fun. We all do it even animals, bugs and nature.

There you have it friends. A few tips on safety. There are many more things in bdsm that I did not include like contracts and other safety tips.

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