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8 Tops Ways to Tell if You Have A Toxic Friendship



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  It has come to my attention that a few people are unsure of what a "friend" really means. This number of people seems to be increasing day by day.  They let these so-called 'friends' do what they want while still caring for them. That is not right. 

As a true friend, I am here to tell you some key traits that a 'friend' does not have. You may think since I am a blogger trying to get you to read, follow and subscribe to my blog that I am not a friend but I am. As a true friend, I will not scam you or take your money (unless you donate to my blog) and I will also come to your blog to follow, read, subscribe if you leave the link in the comments. 


This post is meant to help you gain insight into bad people. You deserve good people around you. I can tell you a person is bad but what you do about that person is up to you. I do hope you learn something from this. I will also be telling you what to do about these toxic people. 

What you do is up to you. I am just trying to help you realize who is toxic. 


In the comments below, tell me other ways a friend or person can be toxic. 




1. If your friend only talks to you when you have money

    This means that your friend may be using you for the money. This does not mean they are taking your actual real money. This means they have status problems and only care for people of certain money status


2. If your friend always wants something from you

   This means that the person is using you for something. Maybe it is money or it could be something as simple as a ride


3. If your friend says 'we are done' over stupid things

   For example- 'we are done' when you say that you don't have something that the friend wants


4. Your friend makes you feel guilty when you can't give them something they want

    When you can't offer something they want, they will say something like "Oh so you are not my friend because you won't ... for me" This is sometimes followed by #3. This person is manipulative


5. This person will accuse you of doing things you are not

   For example- the person saying that you are dating someone who you are not. No matter how many times you tell them you are not, they will bring this up over and over again.


6. This person will not let you have a relationship even though they may be in one

   This is a sign of control. They say they will fight anyone who wants to date you. When you do start dating someone, this person will end the friendship. They want to be the only one in your life and will not accept anyone taking you from them


7. This person spies or has people spying on you

  How does this person know you had company?? They have friends who are spying on you. These 'friends' of theirs may lie about what they see you doing which in turns makes the person accuse you of doing something you are not


8. You find that things are missing when you leave your friend alone in your house

   'Where did the $5 go??' You remember ... was over and you left them alone in your kitchen since you had to use the bathroom. The $5 was on the counter. You want to believe that the ... did not take the money. You want to believe you did not put the $5 on the counter. Though you remember that things seem missing whenever your friend is alone. Hmm

   




What to do when you see that your friend is toxic



1. Change yourself- 

   Stop letting this person take things from you or use you. You have the right to say NO. Stop letting them take advantage of you. 


2. Confront this person-

   You want to make sure the person knows that what they are doing is hurting your feelings. 
Now the person may not think what they are doing is wrong or they may even think you are saying this to end the friendship. Stand your ground and don't make this person think you are the problem


3.. Give the person time to change-

    Change is hard but if this person really cares for you then they will change. This is not an excuse to keep them doing what they are doing to you. It is a chance for them to change on their own before you take the next step


4. Exit the friendship-

   If this person can not change or if this person won't accept what you are saying to them then kick them to the curb. You don't need or deserve to be in a friendship like this. 
Ending the friendship will hurt for some time but in the end and future, it is worth it. You will find real friends




Real friends won't take advantage of you
Real friends will change
Real friends will care for you
Real friends are hard to come by but are real and you will find them

    




50 comments:

  1. Life is too short to put up with toxic people. I think it's important to keep your life free of toxic elements. You only have so much time on this planet.

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  2. It can be so hard to break free of toxic people but it is so important to do - life is too short.

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    1. Yes it can be Mandy. I have seen many people keep with toxic people because they want to see the 'good' in people. It is important for mental state to reid of these people xx

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  3. I've definitely had my fair share of toxic relationships. Luckily, I've separated myself from most of them.

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    1. I am so sorry to hear that but I am also glad that you were able to seperate yourself from those people xx

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  4. I think everyone has had a bit of a toxic friendship at some point in their lives. As you say the trick is to identify it and do something about it.

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    1. It can be easy to identify it but hard to do something but it is best for everyone's mental health xx

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  5. Sometimes it takes an outsider to make us see sense. It's not always easy to admit that you're in a toxic anything, all the more to take action.

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    1. This is true, Nora. Sometimes the person with the toxic friend does not even want to hear it from an outsider. Which can be irritating even more xx

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  6. Toxic people are hard to deal with, never easy. I agree we should get rid of them to be happy and healthy

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  7. we all have toxic people, some of them come in forms of family and that is hard to distance yourself from. so be true to yourself and cut ties when necessary

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    1. Hopefully that toxic person will learn and not do it to other's xx

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  8. So important to recognize the signs especially as you get older. We have all be through this...it hurts but weeding out your life is necessary for a healthy one.

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    1. Yes Catherine. I think as we age, we see and know the signs more. Makes it harder if they have been our friends for a long time xx

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  9. These are all great tips to keep in mind when developing friendships; great advice, indeed!

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    1. Thank you very much Sara. I am glad you enjoyed it xx

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  10. I agree 100% on your tips. I had a friend who did none of these things; however. She was just a horribly, nasty person and I am thankfully not friends with her any longer!

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    1. Oh that is awful Beth, but I am glad you got done with her. You for sure do not need her. I do hope she learns from her mistakes to be a better person xx

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  11. Great article. Would pass it on to my teenager kid for reiterating the facts.

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    1. I am glad you like it and will show your teenager. I do hope she does not have to deal with toxic people Sonal xx

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  12. This is a really helpful post and may help some to identify toxic friendships that they hadn't realised were toxic. It is so important to know the signs. I now know some of my past friendships were toxic and am glad to be rid of them.

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    1. I am glad you liked it, Leah. I am also glad you got rid of those people xx

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  13. thats what they say, if it's toxic, let it go! i just did. :p

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  14. This sounds a lot like an ex I had... and a few friends... no use for them!

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    1. Oh haha glad he is your ex, Kita xx

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  15. These are definitely some red flags. This is an important list of things to look at.

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  16. Friendships can definitely turn on you as you get older. Your goals may change from one another or you may just have different views on things. This is such an important reminder!

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    1. Beyond true Becca. That is something to also consider. A toxic friend can be someone who just does not support you xx

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  17. I have so many friends ad I am so glad they were all good and don't have any signs of being a toxic one.

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    1. You are a lucky one, Alexandra. Keep those friends close xx

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  18. I am so happy that I ahve friend who are very supportive. Thank you for sharing this. This is very important to know especialy when you ahve new circles of friends.

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    1. I am glad you liked it. Keep those supportive friends close xx

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  19. Thank goodness that my toxic friends eliminated themselves!

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    1. That is amazing Felecia. That is a very rare thing to happen xx

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  20. "Real friends won't take advantage of you" such wise words and in the past my mummy has been dropped when she hasn't any money, people have stole from her and used her. Now she finds it hard to trusy anyone x

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    1. I love this quote. Thank you for sharing it xx

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  21. Toxic people are the absolute worst and can polute your energy. Great post on how to recognize and exit!

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    1. They so are!! Thank you for liking it xx

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  22. Toxic people are the absolute worst and can polute your energy. Great post on how to recognize and exit!

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  23. These are all spot on! I always have to remind myself its best to move on from them and start fresh!

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    1. Thank you. Yes Emily, move on and start fresh since you deserve to find great friends

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  24. Toxic relationships are so dangerous if you let them into your life. Thank you.

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  25. It can be hard to walk away from a toxic friendship, but recognising the signs is an important first step

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  26. They will have unlimited oversight, you will have zero control, and the relationship will be totally crazy. Signs of toxic relationships

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