We love because it’s the only true adventure.”Nikki Giovanni

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Fathers always say to daughters 'you can't date until 50'. As kids, we like to disobey our parents. Not to mention teen puberty and thinking everyone is cute. When we turn adults, we realize that maybe dad was correct because dating can be just awful. 

The asking someone out, first dates, kiss or no... The breakups can just destroy someone's self esteem. Like I said it can be wicked hard. Kids take warning and listen to your parents. 

 Over 50 dating is even worse. People think when you are that age, you have to have life all figured out. Sometimes you don't even at the age of 90. If you don't have it figured out then people will just write you off as being a loser or failure. Which I can promise you that you are not. Life is harder then dating. 

When an older person looks younger, they attract younger mates. Younger mates tend to think that since you are older, you have money. They will play games to get you to date them. Then they will start taking advantage of you and your money. If you don't have the money to support this person, then it would be over quick. They will go looking for someone else. 

 I have some tips to be safer. These are things I have learned from watching my mom date. Advise that my mom has given me about dating.




1. Be sure to go to a public place for a date
 
   This will make sure that you are safe. You never know really who is lying about their age online or even a serial killer

2. Get to know this person

  Speople are not always what they seem. People can be nice just to get you attracted to them. Then in a few months, their real personalities start to appear.
 Maybe you discover this person who said had a job lied and is actually too lazy or wants you to pay for them


3. Be honest but don't tell this person everything

    Sure you want to say to your potential mate that you have kids. However, you don't need to tell your life story. Nor do you have to tell this person all your family's name. Keep the important things private.

4. If you can, get a background check on your potential mate

    This will help you not be scammed and can save your life. This also will help you on the first date since you know if this person is lying about anything. They say that they have not committed a crime but you know they have. You will know if they are lying about their age or if they are married.
Just be sure not to tell that you did a background check on them before or during the first date. I mean you can but it might end the date

5. Don't trust too easy

  Sure John has beautiful eyes that make the sky jealous but that doesn't mean he can be trusted. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. John may be married or may be taken advantage of you. You will be sure to regret it if you trust him before you get too know him well enough.

6. Lower your standards a bit
 
  I know this is hard as you still want that special someone. However, you never know that special someone could be the opposite of what you want. Not to mention mature dating is hard.  So be a little more open to different people.

That is all I have for this post today. It is ok to be single over the age of 40 or any age. It is ok to not have it all together. You will find that certain someone just be a bit more open. Have fun in dating but do be sure to keep safe

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Hey friends and welcome back to my blog. 

Finding love can be hard. Which is why sometimes we need some help. That is where a matchmaker comes in. A matchmaker is someone who will help match you with a potential mate. This person can either be professional, friend or even a website like dating sites uk or WeLoveDates

I have to say though, that if I were a matchmaker then I would do things a bit differ. 
What would you do different?? Leave that answer down in the comments. 

1. I would name my site or business 'Love by the Moon' 
*Note- I am not sure if this name is taken or not. I am not actually going to use this name. I am just telling you what I would do. What name I would want my site to be like*

2. I would take on all kinds of people. Any sexual orientation, color of skin, religion, any income... No one would be off limits (besides child predators, wanting to date animals) 

3. It would be one on one.  No other clients besides the one I am trying to find love for. That way I can focus my time on helping this person. Make the person not a number, a money sign or anything like that. 

4. My client and I would meet for coffee or lunch. That way I can learn what their interest are, dislikes and all that stuff. 

5. I would be real with my client. Tell them what they need to hear. Tell them if they are being too picky or not picky enough. Honesty is the best policy. 
Honest without being too harsh. 

I want to not make them have false hope that this will work out. It might not. One can try a matchmaker then wind up finding love on their own. Or the matchmaking may not work. Which is fine because when the time is right, you will find love. Maybe the time is not right. 
Not because my 'skills' are lacking or you need to do something different or find some other Matchmaker. No, because life has a funny way of doing things

6.  A background check on all clients and their potential mate. That way I can know if they are being honest with me. I don't want to set someone up with a person who committed a horrible crime. I also don't want to work with one who did either

This background check would also be on me to give to my clients. That way they know who is trying to set them up. 

7. I would be sure to not charge so much. Not many people can afford to spend $30 to find love. Nor should they have to spend that much to find love.
It would be free with a $10 charge if there is a 2cd date. 

8.. I would set my client up with one person at a time. Sites normally show you 40 different people and expect you to choose from them based on a photo. I don't think that is how it should work. Narrow down who the person should meet. 
Have the person meet one person then another if that date does not work out. 


Many online sites don't do most of these things. 
There are websites for various types of people but there are none for all types of people. 
Websites fail to background check which is why it can be scary sometimes. You never know if you are talking to the person they say they are or a completely different person. 
Many sites charge a lot of money. 


That is all I have for this post here today  I do sure hope you enjoyed it. It is always fun imagining what you woild do different in business. You never know, maybe I will get into matchmaking haha.
We all deserve love. If you try a dating site or matchmaker then just be careful. If it fails you then that is fine. Like I said, you will find the love you deserve. 
You can check out my post to be sure you are not dating someone toxic by clicking here



*I have included a printable full of questions for you and your potential mate to answer. You both must answer the same questions and be as truthful as possible. My hope with this is to make your date a little less stressful. Hopefully from this you guys will find something in common. Hopefully it won't totally wreck the date. So be sure to get that by clicking here *

Hey friends and welcome back to my blog.

Friendships come and friendships go, this we know is certain. The best friendships last forever even if you drift away. You know you can still count on that friend and reconnect with them once you see them again.

Recently I did a post called 8 Top Ways to Tell if You Have a Toxic Friendship , which has been one of my most popular post ever!! Thank you for that :) Today I decided to go the opposite route and tell you if you have a great friendship. 

I know this should be a topic that we really don't need to discuss since it should be obvious. However, from my past post I can tell that maybe some people need some help. So be sure you read both posts so you can be sure that you are getting the best out of all the friendship you try to make.

You deserve to have a great friend.
You don't deserve a toxic friend.
I know it can be hard to build friendships (maybe I can help you with that in a future post, even if I don't really know how myself. Comment if you would like to see that)  but it can be done

Be sure to comment down below any other keys that would tell you a friendship is great

Hey friends and welcome back to my blog. 

Hey friends and welcome back to my blog

  Today we are taking a stroll down memory lane. I decided to do this post since 1. I saw it on https://digitalbutterfly.life/guest-blog-posts/  2. I am in the middle of packing this weekend and wanted to get a quick post out but not a re-upload of an old post.

Not that this headline or topic will get me more shares or drive traffic or a high score on https://coschedule.com/headline-analyzer but it's a fun post to share. (When you add this just to increase the number of words on your blog)

Today we will be looking at some of the most embarrassing moments from my childhood. Trust me there is a bunch. Hopefully, I am getting them all accurate since they say your memories are not true to what happened. I have decided to tell 3 of the stories. I hope you will find some humor in one and some life lessons in the others.

Enjoy my trauma :)